Think like a man
All that brings me to the idea of thinking like a man. In terms of relationships, dating and sex, I do see my thoughts as being more male than female. What do I mean? Let me elaborate. . .
This is the part where this blog gets a little personal. Like the blurb on this blog says, this is a glimpse into my mind so personal information is bound to be included. Anyway, I am the type of woman who has never had an issue understanding that sometimes sex is just sex. I've never been the girl who thinks that sleeping with a boy meant we were in a relationship, or should be. I've always understood that emotions and sex are two very separate things. This is a quality that has been generally attribute to men. Is this a good quality? I'm not sure, but it's one that I possess.
You know that question you always hear women ask. . "If I have sex with him too soon, will he ever be able to take me serious. . .can a relationship ever be in our future?". Yeah, well turn that question around on me. . I mean from my perspective and the answer would be no. Like I said, I have no issue knowing that sex can just be sex, but that in and of itself can be a problem. I have a hard time envisioning a relationship with any man that I've slept just for the sake of having sex. Scratch that, I don't have a hard time doing it, it is IMPOSSIBLE!
So what is my point with this post? There really is none. I just had this topic on my mind today. I'm not really sure what sparked it, maybe just being introspective and evaluating my life. I guess I was wondering how many good men I may have thrown to the side because I decided to let my physical desires take the lead. Maybe none. . .maybe a few. I don't know, I'm just rambling.
I hope me moment of personal sharing doesn't scare anyone off.
Until next time,
A
It didn't scare me off. lol. If you were thinking like a guy, you wouldn't be asking this questions. Just kidding. lol
ReplyDeleteTo answer your first question, I don't think it's a matter of a good or bad quality. Talking personally, if I'm going out, I'm thinking of having a good time and if I find someone that I want to get to know, whether it is just for that night or more, then I'm just going to go with it.
Guys are naturally want to (for a better lack of words) conquer. That instinct isn't in women. That why men can separate making love to just having sex. Again, I'm not saying this is good or bad. It's just want it is.
You said "I have a hard time envisioning a relationship with any man that I've slept just for the sake of having sex. Scratch that, I don't have a hard time doing it, it is IMPOSSIBLE!" I don't think it's impossible. Friends with Benefits is a relationship. But if we are talking a committed monogamous, it's freaking hard. not impossible.
In all honesty, my actual thought is that it's impossible. . .but I try not to say that word. I try to keep an open mind, but my past has shown me that it's next to impossible. That's had me rethinking a lot of stuff over the last few years. We'll see where it leads.
ReplyDeleteI kind of think this topic is your way of thinking things outside your head. Don't be too hard on yourself.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry. . .I know doing that serves no purpose.
ReplyDeleteLOL. Emotions are overrated. lol
ReplyDeleteYES. . .LOL
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